Self Respect : a prerequisite…
Self respect?? What a hackneyed topic to sermonise?? Just go on to decide for yourself….
Self respect is a one of the critical parameters to judge self and the others. It is imperative to live life in the society, let alone lead it. Now a days, people just seem to allude it and remain aloof of it. The modern life is bleaching it and people are getting bereft of it. Their callousness is letting them condone themselves for doing contemptible deeds and sedating their guilt. So should we just let it go just like that and blame the situation for it? No. It would mean living a life without a soul!! Need is to take commensurate measures to combat it, restore it and then enhance it. And trust me, emulating others won’t help. It requires an independent effort which can be procured only by yourself.
I have ruminated to refer that people are losing it because they are ambivalent about the good and the bad. They know whom to respect but not what to respect. And so how can anyone decide about the good and the bad, the right and the wrong, the true and the false? Today is the age of profit and loss. People are after influence and wealth. They want power. They want to secure their life because they know that not everyone is gifted with it. And this has led to the accretion in sycophancy and adulation and attrition in self respect. People are becoming officious to the person they want to influence and apathetic towards the needy.
Pondering over the topic, i thought of sharing one of my regular experience. I am a student and staying in the hostel. It is always amusing to meet and think of variety of people here. The college is privileged enought that we have an internet connection in our rooms for free. So the common way to kill time is by chatting on the net. Boys have this tendency of wasting their time on making e-female friends via chatting and other means. It is something which they love to boast about. And they become so credulous that they are able to fake themselves to any extent to impress the gals. Isn’t this a perfect example of selling your self respect to a perfect-stranger?
It is not that i am in a different orbit or some rebel to change the world. What i want to exhort is that we can always decide the kind of life we want to live. The situation makes you choose the way you should live life but not the quality of living it. It is just that one is more prone to succumb to the bad terms. All that is required is self-motivation. Motivation from the able people who respect themselves. If you decide to look for such people consiously, you will get atleast a few around you. All these people existed earlier but now you have got a vision to envisage them. And slowly it will lead to the inception of a new strength within which will reward you with its own maturity. You will feel a never before change in yourself to make you realise that you are invaluable. You can’t trade yourself for someone or something. Contemporarily you will also realise the value of others which you will learn to revere.
Moral : Respect is not materialistic; it has to be earned for self before giving it to others!!
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One needs to look at the context too before deciding whether or not self-respect is being lost. I don’t thing chatting with e-female friends is losing self-respect. Maybe one is doing it for fun. Begging for a date in person is another matter though.
To Manish,
I was referring to a situation where you begin to show your second face to a gal(stranger) inorder to impress her so that things happen and you may not even end up in a date but loosing your self-respect(that’s when you are not being genuine)
Don’t take it in a bad way but I found the article to be lacking a central theme. It kind of goes in circles. I almost forgot what the article was about near the end.
Hey man.. your vocabs got me stumped.. Try to go a little low on the vocabs and higher on the content.. If you can understand, write like Tagore not like Nehru.
You picked up a good topic, brought up relevant issues and expressed your original insights.. that’s really great.. overall i would rate this the best among your posts so far..
But in your attempts to use a bombastic language, you foussed less on the central theme. The same idea can be conveyed in fewer and simpler words.. I think one should use the words because you ‘need’ them and not because you ‘want’ to use them, there is a difference between the two.
All in all, I would have preferred it in a simpler language but the ideas are good and have a depth esp. about your alter ego on the net and I liked it.
Hi! Its a nice post. Some people definatly loose their self respect to get the
attention.
I do agree with the comment of Blackhole. This is the best post among all,
but it can be conveyed in simpler words so that everyone can understand the
matter without using all his brain to understand the meaning of the word.